So let’s follow up to the previous post. If you didn’t read it you can find it here… Living a Romanticized Life
So how do we do that? Good question. We briefly touched on some ways to really romanticize the everyday, mundane life. But let’s get a little more detail.
I’ve spent time the last few weeks really trying hone in on simplistic ideas that will make the biggest impact in making my world feel romanticized. Here’s my biggest takeaways…
Set the mood
Your environment is crucial to creating a romanticized life. You want your space to be dreamy and magical and use all of your senses to create that for you. You want your experience to be straight out of a movie, right?! That’s the point. You get to decide to live out your experiences in a beautiful way instead of the Monday blues. Set the mood for yourself. Doesn’t matter what you’re doing. Cooking, cleaning, working from home, taking a bath etc. Find big and small ways to incorporate those mindset changes into your life.
Light a candle. This is by far one of the easiest ways to create a romantic atmosphere. The weight of the world doesn’t seem quite as heavy when it’s dark and you’re only able to see what is visible by candlelight. There’s an ambiance and a mood that is set when you light a scented candle. Even in daylight, when candlelight makes no difference, you get the scent filling up your personal space. This adds to your environment. Don’t worry so much about the amount of money you’re spending, just find one you enjoy and burn that baby.
Or if you’re not into candles, find a diffuser and an essential oil blend you like and a Himalayan salt lamp. Gives you scent and light around you. Options are endless.
Slow down your life enough to go pick those gorgeous flowers you’ve been seeing in an orchard on the way home. Pick up an arrangement you see in a display window of a floral shop or supermarket. Why not? Why are we waiting on others to give them to us and missing out on opportunities to decorate our space with the beautiful arrangements of tulips and roses? We shouldn’t. We work hard. We deserve to admire flowers. Life’s too short to sit around waiting and imagine how special you’ll feel with the flowers sitting on the counter with that lit candle. If you have someone special who makes sure to shower you with floral arrangements then pop them throughout the house on display. Romanticize your space.
I hadn’t purchased perfume in years. I mean years. When I heard this one I really felt like this was a must. I always see perfume commercials that seem so glamorous. Like everything in their life just falls together in harmony and even in a screw up they’d come out on top, graciously. So, I purchased a few samples to find the perfect scent. Because what better way to feel connected to your own body than to find a scent that perfectly matches you. And it worked. I feel sexier and more put together with a spritz of a scent that defines me.
Bath time Sanctuary
Water just seems to hold some sort of power over me. Lol ocean preferably, but creating a little bath sanctuary has to come as a close 2nd. It’s like the water has the ability to wash away the day, the stress, the negativity. Don’t look at this like a mundane chore. Remember, we are getting away from that! Make it magical with a splash essential oils, bath salts or bubble bath. Light the candles we just talked about above. (See how it’s all coming together??) Leave your phone somewhere else and take that time to read a book or meditate or just enjoy your own company. If you have a shower try some eucalyptus. Schedule out some time every week for a little you time.
So this one is hard for me. Coming from a giant tshirt and cotton shorts Every. Single. Night. to trying to make more of an effort to feel romantic and secure in myself. We’ve talked about candles. We’ve talked about bath time. Now we are talking about getting out of the bath in the evening when the world is quieting down and we are alone with thoughts and desires and slipping into something silky that makes us feel good. Whether your cup of tea is a silk nightgown, matching pajama set or teddie. Find what makes you feel romantic, what you admire in a movie that makes a woman look like she owns her world. Try a few new pieces of sleepwear and feel the difference. You’ve spent the whole day romanticizing your life so why stop at bedtime. This will also encourage body positivity. We have one body and one life. Feel good in your skin. Embrace gratitude, speak love about yourself, give yourself permission to love your stretch marked stomach, thick thighs, arm flab and everything that makes you, you.
I feel like when you really slow down and think about all the chances you have to make life feel special, you’ll find we’ve been missing all the little things all along. So try taking the long way home, buying stationary and writing letters, putting the phone down and living in the moments you’re in, create a playlist and make the soundtrack of your life. Let go of the need to document every second of our lives. Play the movie of your life.
You’ve got this!