This is a recent find for me. And as soon as I randomly stumbled across a TikTok, I immediately jumped on blogs to read up on this idea. Followed by a Pinterest board, of course.
As soon as I immersed myself into this thought process of romanticizing my life, it felt like someone was finally giving me permission to live life the way I’d been trying to since I was young.
I had always made my life out to be this movie that was playing in my head. Trying to make every moment special. It wasn’t until I hit my late teens/early 20s and found myself in a world of abuse and lack of self worth that I let go of that thought process because I thought I was just expecting too much of my life and constantly being let down. (Turns out I was just surrounded by narcissistic/abusive people who didn’t value me. Word of advice… check who you’ve surrounded yourself with first before writing off your life as a let down)
Needless to say, I’ve been on the road to healing for 6 years now and come a long way, but I’m always looking for ways to grow. And hearing the phrase “Romanticized Life” took me back to what came naturally all along.
So what does it mean to romanticize your life… glad you asked.
Life as we think about it now: Another morning. Back at work with meetings back to back, a cold cup of coffee that sits because all the paperwork on your desk keeps piling up and requires your attention, your plant that’s wilting from a weekend of neglect, hearing the voice of your least favorite coworker headed your way and to top it off there’s no sunshine anywhere, only rain.
Life romanticized: It’s 10 am and you are using your stash of favorite pens and stationary, you talk to your favorite coworkers about their weekend adventures while on your way to grab water for the beautiful plant that was given to you 6 months ago by your best friend. It’s gazing out the rain streaked window while your fresh coffee is brewing and knowing that the rain brings life in the gorgeous flowers that will bloom soon.
You getting the picture?
One more example and this one is harder.
Looking in the mirror: I hate the freckles on my thighs, the scars on my knee look disgusting, I’m heavier than I’ve ever been, there’s so much cellulite and stretch marks that cover my body, I had to go up a size in these jeans because of the weight I’ve gained…the list goes on but let’s stop there.
Romanticize yourself: I love the way I fill out the new jeans, every scar, every stretch mark tells a story which made me into the person I am. And the person I am is unique. The person I am is so deeply me and that is beautiful.
Now, more than ever, we see this glamorized lifestyle everywhere. From the romantic movies, videos of our favorite lifestyle vloggers, Instagram scrolling and setting the perfectly curated scene of a latte in a quaint coffee shop.
It’s easy to think this is not attainable for me. This lifestyle wasn’t meant for me and is only something other people get.
FALSE!! Big fat lies!
You can cultivate any life you want and that includes the ones you fill with beautiful moments because you are just as deserving. Don’t allow yourself to get stuck on repeat. Just living the same day over and over and assuming there’s nothing more. There is more and you can make it more.
Find the mundane and give it a spark of life. Set the mood for your life, find that coffee shop or make your own version in your home, take the long way home from work and see something new.
Your options are endless and you can find the romance as often as you let yourself. Make yourself the lead role in your own life.
Today starts the documentation of spending the next 30 days romanticizing life. Watch my IG or TikTok to catch glimpses of how I’m practicing this everyday. And tag me in all your stories if you decide to follow along!